Negative energy will bread self-doubt and negative thoughts.
Being hard on yourself is not the right approach to successful weight loss. When it comes to losing weight, having an all or nothing approach is very common and is a common cause of lower levels of success. This “all or nothing” approach is a fairly common but is also a common reason for doubt and self-depreciation when you fail to be as successful as you have planned. The more sustainable diets is a change for life that results in long-lasting weight loss through a whole life approach and not a single tip, suggestion, or recommendation that you must follow for the rest of your lift.
Naturally, we gravitate to quick changes that are simple and will eventually end, but this approach will fail.
If you are hard on yourself, the negative energy will grow as you let little bumps in your success. Full commitment to weight requires confidence and compassion for oneself. Your commitment to success will gradually fade to disillusion as you struggle or your progress plateaus. If you focus on absolutes such as losing significant amounts of weight in an unrealistic period, you will become discouraged, and you will fail. Instead of becoming discouraged and falling for this trap, fine-tune your plan, and that stalled weight loss will not derail your plan.
Success is weight loss requires positive thought and optimism. You will need to feel good about the path you have chosen and confident you will get there. The problem is we often have little compassion for ourselves, and we are too hard on ourselves when we slip up and indulge in something we should avoid. Behavioral health professionals refer to compassion for oneself as self-compassion, and it is essential for long-term weight loss.
My goal as an individual is to lose weight and never to gain it back. This goal is the same one I hope that all of my patients attain. Our success is dependent on not only what we eat and how we exercise but also about how we feel about ourselves. If you feel good about yourself, you will treat
yourself better and will be more likely to eat and exercise properly to attain good health.
If you lack compassion for yourself, you will be less forgiving of a mistake. You will develop self-loathing and have less self-worth. Success is not determined by the amount you weight or your clothing size, it is determined by how you value yourself. For this reason, it is of vital importance that you develop a new way of looking at eating, exercising, and body weight.
Rigidity is the enemy. Years of research and I am sure both your and my failures have led me to understand why this is such a terrible thing. Let me illustrate with my snack last night. I had two servings of chocolate. In the past, this might have expanded to 3-5 servings or even completely derailed my plans. Now, I have the flexibility to survive a small indiscretion. The bottom line is that rigidity breeds failure but making unrealistic expectation. Instead of making a plan to have no added sugar, make a place to reduce your added sugar. You will be not only happier but also more successful.
Rigidity also leads to negativity when you violate your plans. The negative or pleasant thoughts are from a loss of perceived control over your diet and life. The results are feelings of failure that lead to a spiral out of control. The more strict the diet, the more likely you are to violate it. Look at a low or no carb diet for example. It is so rigid that it is nearly impossible to maintain for most that try them. There is no doubt that you will fail if you leave out the carbs that you crave as comfort foods.
Tips for success:
- Stop being your inner critic. That inner voice that you hear which sounds like your grandmother, mother, or father needs to go. Be constructive and positive. Critics tend to have a lot of negative energy. Negative energy leads to overeating.
- Flexibility is the key. You have decided to follow your diet 100% of the time with no exception and how you have a required work lunch for
work. You could just sit and not eat, or you could order a meal that is as healthy as you can eat. Be flexible and just take 1/2 home in a doggy bag. If you plan for it and accept it, you will be more accepting of the slip-up.
- Know yourself. If you truly know yourself, you will know your stress triggers for overeating and develop plans and mechanisms to avoid them. Acknowledge your own feelings and be mindful of your weaknesses. Accepting yourself as you are is one of the keys to success.
- Accept that you will overeat. Have compassion for yourself and understand that we are all imperfect. If you acknowledge this fact, you will be less hard on yourself when you indulge.
- Avoid negative thought and self-loathing. You had a little slip-up. You are only Human. If you fall prey to anger and self-loathing behavior, you will be more likely to graze the snack bowls and snaking is the evil villain when it comes to weight loss.
- Avoid mindless eating. You need to be mindful of the situation. The worst thing you can do is eat when stressed or eat while watching TV or movies. I have always referred to eating chips or popcorn as strapping on the feed bag. You need to very aware of how much you are eating.
The Bottom Line: Now that may seem ironic, but trust me because you will reap better results by learning how to take it easy and be more compassionate with yourself. Flexibility and Compassion are the keys to success. Being rigid, cynical, and hard on yourself will lead to you being discouraged. The endless cycle of despair and agony over your splurges will only lead to more eating. Turn your negativity into determination and avoid self-loathing.